How to be Confident – 30 Days to Build Massive Confidence
No confidence? Or, want to increase your level of confidence? 30 days to massive confidence!
Yes, this sounds like an infomercial you might see at 2 o’clock in the morning, but the technique below will greatly strengthen confidence in almost everyone and build massive confidence in some … all in 30 days or less. Begin with a 10 day commitment. It’s been successful with elite athletes, kids in high school, executives in business, almost everyone who has completed it. It can work for you too! Here’s how …
Here’s how to increase your level of confidence. How to be confident in 30 days. The 30 days to massive confidence technique:
If you do this precisely as recommended, you should start to notice a difference in the first 10 days. Reevaluate how this is working for you after 10 days and if you notice a slight improvement … continue the confidence building process.
Day 1. Remember and record a time you were confident.
1. Remember a time you were confident. It could be from your childhood, teenage years or adult life. It could concern academics, a social activity, a game, athletics, a hobby — it doesn’t matter what you were doing, just that you were confident doing it; a time when your level of confidence was high.
2. Record your confident memory. In a journal or place that’s dedicated to confident memories, record your memory. Include the situation and how you thought, acted and felt when your confidence level was high. Write as much detail as you can about how you experience confidence. Continue this until you can re-experience the feeling of confidence, even if it’s just a tiny bit of it. Some of you will experience a lot of the feeling of confidence while thinking about your confident memory, while others will experience only a little. As long as you bring back some of the feeling of confidence, you’ve stimulated that part of your brain that knows how to be confident. The more you stimulate it, the bigger and stronger your of confidence neural network becomes.
What does it mean to make your confidence neural network stronger? Neuroscience has shown that we have neuroplasticity. We can both form new neurons in our brains (no matter what our age) and we can change how the neurons in our brains connect, thus create new thinking patterns. When you create new thinking patterns, you create a different emotional response to situations. You can create a confident thinking and emotional response to a situation you use to not feel confident in.
Day 2. Remember, record and reread.
1. Remember and record a new confident memory (like you did in day 1).You will now have two memories recorded.
2. Reread and remember your first memory until you can bring back the feeling of confidence.
Day 3 – until you are done. Remember, record and reread.
1. Repeat the two steps of day 1. Remember and record a new memory each day.
2. Reread and remember all the confident memories you have previously recorded. Bring back the feeling of confidence with each one. Every time you stimulate your confident neural network with a confident memory, it gets stronger. It’s like going to the gym and strengthening a muscle, the more exercises you do with that muscle, the bigger and stronger it becomes — except here, you’re working out the confidence neural network in your brain to make it bigger and stronger!
- 100% percent of the entrepreneurs I surveyed want more confidence in some area of their life. Do you?
- This 30 days to build massive confidence technique will increase your confidence,but most people won’t do it. Will you?
- If you want to be more confident, are you willing to train your mind to have it? What have you got to lose … just some fear!
Additional directions:
1. Commit to build either general confidence, or confidence in something specific.
a. If you choose general confidence, use as many diverse memories as possible in your journaling.
b. If you choose to build specific confidence (e.g., speaking to groups, selling, standing up for yourself, etc.) choose the most specific memories you can. Let’s say you want to express your opinion more confidently, remember times when you have. You can include doing it with people and in situations you are comfortable with as well as with people and situations you weren’t. It’s easy to disclude times that weren’t challenging, but they are important to include.
2. Key in your commitment and how long you commit to – 10, 20 or 30 days in the leave a comment section below. This is an important step!
3. If you have questions. Just ask; I will be reading your comments and will respond to your questions.
4. Every few days please share with us how your 30 Days to Build Massive Confidence with this confidence booster technique is progressing.
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Thanks!
I am going to challenge myself for 30 days to grow confidence regarding personal issues I would like to resolve.
I’m excited to follow each of you who engage in this challenge!
Jane, I hope you make great progress resolving the personal issues you are addressing!
It seems most people could use more confidence. I’m committing to do the 30-day challenge. I can’t wait to see how it goes — I’m very excited!
Hilary,
I look forward to learning our results … I think you will be really pleased!
TC,
I got to put my challenge into practice this week with a very positive outcome. I was able to set boundaries and let myself be heard. The end result was awesome. Thanks!
Jane,
That’s GREAT! To set boundaries and be heard … what a great area to develop confidence in!
TC
I have a very difficult decision to make and a painful one as well. I read a post you wrote not too long ago, and I think it perfectly describes my current struggle.
Without sorrow, there is no joy.
Without failure, there is no success.
Without fear, there is no confidence.
I am struggling to make an important decision with great fear that it will bring me great sorrow, these words have inspired me to have the confidence to make this decision fully knowing the outcome will bring me great sorrow. It is the realization that with sorrow, I will find joy, maybe not in my time frame, but none the less it will come. Thank you for the inspiring words.
I have found as many women have in my age group that we have been taught at a very young age to put others needs before our own. We have learned to be self-sacrificing. We have been taught to put others needs before our own or be considered selfish. As mothers we put our kids needs above our own as well. In work environments we allow others to walk all over us because we need to be viewed as nice because to stand up for yourself means you are a bitch. It is a very difficult process breaking down those lessons ingrained in us a little girls. It is a hard lesson to find the confidence to change old patterns and turn them around into a positive patterns that actually benefit not only ourselves but those for whom the boundaries have been set. It is especially hard when those patterns mean we cause discord with those we love. I have had to stand my ground, knowing that setting boundaries where there once were none, can cause a lot of guilt for me and may even cause me sorrow in the short term, but my experiences in doing so have proven that positive results eventually come if the boundaries are based on love, even if it has to be tough love.
Jane,
I’m glad you found my words inspiring and helpful. I really appreciate you sharing the challenge that women in your age group have because of childhood patterning! Insightful and will inspire others to take on what the limiting beliefs they have learned in childhood (we all have some)!
I’m so happy for you that your 30 days to massive confidence exercise is helping you find the strength to set boundaries where you need them. You deserve to be quite proud!
TC
Alright, I am IN!! I pledge to do this for 20 days and already have my confidence images (one having to do with Chicago and the other sharing a championship in hockey with my team! Can’t wait to get started!!
Dave, the courage to be more confident … you have it; glad you are in! Since you already have your confident images/anchors, you can keep strengthening your anchors. When they you have strengthened them long and deeply enough, accessing them will create instantaneous confidence sent from the confident neuronetwork in you brain through the rest of your body. I look forward to following your progress. Please give us an update every few days!
I have completed the 30 days to massive confidence and can I just say — WOW! Conducting this exercise every day was very interesting and inspirational. It was not only fun to go back through my life and think of 30 times in which I felt confident, but, most important … it helped me tremendously with my confidence! I feel more self-assured than ever, and I intend to repeat this exercise from time to time as I feel I need it. Thank you, TC, for passing along this invaluable activity — it’s amazing! I highly recommend it, and I feel that absolutely everyone can benefit from it.
Hilary.
Congratulations on the self-discipline to do this for 30 days! Everyone who has done this has received tremendous benefit. I’d highly recommend you keep your list of 30 confident moments where you can review it periodically so you can continue to strengthen your confidence neuronetwork.
Also, pull it out when you need a confidence boost, heading into a challenging situation.
Hilary, You Rock!
TC
OK, I admittedly fell off the wagon here. I am going to restart today…reviewing my 3 or 4 memories and then make it part of my weekly planning next week to add one per day.
Hi, just wanted to let you guys know I’m gonna commit myself in doing this for the next 30 days. Just recorded my first memorie.
I’m shooting for a boost of my general confidence since this has taken quite a beating the last few years, any small steps in the good direction will be very appreciated.
I’ll keep you guys informed on how things are progressing.
Hans, Congratulations on strengthening your confidence. One of my coaching clients from Ohio said she was not experiencing any benefit after a week. When we talked about it, it’s because she was cutting corners on the exercise. Please give yourself the gift of strengthening your confidence, for this to help, it’s important you follow the directions precisely. I look forward to your updates. Dr. TC North.
TC,
I just finished this up and am impressed with the results. I felt a noticeable improvement to my confidence around day 7 and am now unstoppable. Thanks for the idea, I would recommend it to anyone who is committed to improving confidence.
Hi Matt,
The change you have made, that I have witnessed is incredible. You Rock!
Hans,
Are you staying with this?