Fifty, 150, 500? I can’t even count the number of highly successful entrepreneurs, sales professionals and executives who’ve told me, “I feel like a fraud,” or something similar — and all these talented people had a secret. Like one very powerful businessman, whom I’ll call Dan.
Dan was a public figure who use to enjoy speaking,
The last post concluded with, “Every business and personal relationship you’re in can benefit from you giving more, but you must also be open to receiving … .” Have you ever hugged or kissed someone who didn’t hug or kiss you back? Have you ever given a present to someone who obviously didn’t like it? I have, and it made me feel empty and icky. Receiving a gift with gratitude returns a gift to the giver; not receiving a gift with gratitude makes the giver feel rejected.
If someone repeatedly rejects your gifts, will you keep giving? I think not. If the universe gives to you and you don’t graciously receive, will it keep giving?
Most people who don’t have enough love and/or money actually block receiving them, just like they block compliments. The underlying cause of this block is often a deep belief of unworthiness and lack of confidence. So what can you do? …
For an abundance of love and/or wealth,
you must be open to receiving!
When someone gives you a compliment,
gift, opportunity or present,
joyously and gratefully receive it.
You’ll be amazed at how happy it makes
you, and the giver, feel!
This is an advanced statistical phenomenon, and it’s important to understand if you want to be a high-performer. (I’ll bet you never guessed you could be a higher performer by using a statistical phenomenon!). It essentially says that if you’re significantly different from the group you’re around, you’ll tend to become more like the group over time. I took 12 credit hours of graduate school statistics and this is the only useful concept I learned!
We don’t choose to expose ourselves to radioactivity because, depending on the dose, it will cause mild sickness or even death. But to a great extent, we do choose the people we spend our time with, and some can be as emotionally toxic to our minds (and, therefore, our success and happiness) as plutonium is to our bodies.
“Through everything I’ve gone through —
and I’ve been everywhere, at the top of the world,
in jail, hung-over drunk —
I never gave up my dream of winning
a gold medal in the Olympics.”
— Dan O’Brien, Olympic decathlon champion, 1996
and three-time decathlon world champion
What are these you may ask? Your spouse? Parents? Boss? Coach? Kids? Wouldn’t that be nice! Unfortunately, none of these people is in your control. But, hey, the good news is that they’re all influenced by you and your relationship with them!
