Why stop negative thoughts? A new revelation

– By TC North, Ph.D.

If you’ve ever led a meeting or given a presentation, put yourself in my place for this story. What would you do as the meeting facilitator?

I was presenting to about 30 folks at a corporate retreat that combined a day of strategic planning with a day of confidence-building training. While teaching how to stop negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts, this lovely, 30-something, blond-haired, blue-eyed woman in a stunning, shiny black suit raised her hand. When I called on her, she stood up, put her hands on her hips, sighed deeply and loudly, and said, … 

Overcoming fear of failure

– By TC North, Ph.D.

Fear of failure is one of the greatest blocks to success, in every aspect of life. Jeremy Bloom has been a top male model, three-time world champion freestyle skier, played three years of NFL football and built two successful entrepreneur companies during the great recession of 2008-2009. He has accomplished all this at the age of 29. In an interview I did for a book I am writing, Jeremy shared how he has in his words, “failed more than I have succeeded” and how he learned to overcome fear of failure.

Here’s a four minute video with Jeremy describing his unique perspective on failure and fear of failure.

Replace negative thoughts – Don Schula got it right.

Replace the negative thought “I want to be liked” with “I want to be respected.” That would be the leadership advice from Don Shula, the Hall of Fame football coach of the Miami Dolphins — and the only professional football coach to coach a professional football team to an undefeated season.

Schula had a conversation with a reporter that went something like this:

Reporter: “I hear that you’re a ‘players’ coach.’” (Meaning he was well-liked by his players)

Coach Shula: “I couldn’t care less if my players like me; I want their respect, not their friendship.”

When is respect more important than being liked? It’s more important when …

Gain control of automatic negative thoughts. The one emotion you should never think or express…

– By TC North, Ph.D.

In the last post, I shared one of my favorite ways to purge daily negative thoughts and feelings — by using verbal vomit. This is great technique to gain control of automatic negative thoughts you have after a bunch of frustration. There is one negative thought/emotion that you should never express, because doing so makes it stronger and it’s dangerous. What do you think it is …

The value of verbal vomit to stop negativity and automatic negative thoughts

– By TC North, Ph.D.

Everyone gets disappointed, frustrated, angry and fearful at times. When you get caught in this negativity, or in automatic negative thoughts, purge them quickly to make room for positive thoughts.

How? Do the verbal vomit. Verbal vomit helps eliminate your negative thoughts about daily stressors such as losing a big sale, getting caught in traffic, being late to an important appointment, catching your 17-year-old climbing out the window in the middle of the night or dealing with your dog who got a stomach bug and let loose from both ends. The goal of verbal vomit is to speak your negativity so you’re getting it out of yourself and not affecting others.

Here are the rules:

How to get rid of negative thoughts

– By TC North, Ph.D.

Today I’ll share how world-class athletes, high-performance business leaders and other high performers transmute, or channel, fear into higher levels of performance. Here’s a key to success for all the high-performing teams, organizations and individuals I’ve worked with. Click below for the Transform Fear Into Success video, or continue reading the text …