How to get rid of negative thoughts

– By TC North, Ph.D.

High performers deal with mistakes differently than under performers, which is in part why they are high performers. High Performers are extremely critical of themselves, but they use their critical evaluation to change and improve, not to beat themselves up with negative thoughts.

This can confuse people because it appears that high performers are really hard on themselves with their thorough self-critiques. Again, the difference is that high performers mobilize their energy to improve themselves rather than beat themselves up thinking negative thoughts. Some high performers learn to get rid of negative thoughts so well that the thoughts are almost nonexistent. Here’s an amazing one-minute video of how Jeremy Bloom, a three-time world-champion freestyle skier turned successful entrepreneur, sharing how he gets rid of negative thoughts.

Why stop negative thoughts? A new revelation

– By TC North, Ph.D.

If you’ve ever led a meeting or given a presentation, put yourself in my place for this story. What would you do as the meeting facilitator?

I was presenting to about 30 folks at a corporate retreat that combined a day of strategic planning with a day of confidence-building training. While teaching how to stop negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts, this lovely, 30-something, blond-haired, blue-eyed woman in a stunning, shiny black suit raised her hand. When I called on her, she stood up, put her hands on her hips, sighed deeply and loudly, and said, … 

Overcoming fear of failure

– By TC North, Ph.D.

Fear of failure is one of the greatest blocks to success, in every aspect of life. Jeremy Bloom has been a top male model, three-time world champion freestyle skier, played three years of NFL football and built two successful entrepreneur companies during the great recession of 2008-2009. He has accomplished all this at the age of 29. In an interview I did for a book I am writing, Jeremy shared how he has in his words, “failed more than I have succeeded” and how he learned to overcome fear of failure.

Here’s a four minute video with Jeremy describing his unique perspective on failure and fear of failure.

Does selling fear control you?

Fear is one of the most powerful human emotions; its grip is strong and pervasive. To maximize your success in business and selling, you must learn to control your fear of sales, or it controls you.

There are four kinds of sales in business: products, services, ideas and yourself. In the corporate world, you sell ideas up to your boss, down to your team and across to your peers. If you’re a CEO, you’re the lead on selling …

Replace negative thoughts – Don Schula got it right.

Replace the negative thought “I want to be liked” with “I want to be respected.” That would be the leadership advice from Don Shula, the Hall of Fame football coach of the Miami Dolphins — and the only professional football coach to coach a professional football team to an undefeated season.

Schula had a conversation with a reporter that went something like this:

Reporter: “I hear that you’re a ‘players’ coach.’” (Meaning he was well-liked by his players)

Coach Shula: “I couldn’t care less if my players like me; I want their respect, not their friendship.”

When is respect more important than being liked? It’s more important when …

Gain control of automatic negative thoughts. The one emotion you should never think or express…

– By TC North, Ph.D.

In the last post, I shared one of my favorite ways to purge daily negative thoughts and feelings — by using verbal vomit. This is great technique to gain control of automatic negative thoughts you have after a bunch of frustration. There is one negative thought/emotion that you should never express, because doing so makes it stronger and it’s dangerous. What do you think it is …